Tips on How to ask a Lady to Dance in Salsa


Not all of us have confidence to boost and in the salsa scene, it gets tougher what with having to ask a girl to dance. So for all you shy guys out there, the crew at ACTFA Dance School Singapore had a meeting and came up with a couple of ways to ask a girl to dance.

For the terminally tongue tied:

You could start off by wearing a T-shirt that says “I’m shy please ask me to dance”. In that sense you leave it up to the ladies here. Of course this is not without it’s cons for in the dark salsa club where people are constantly on the lookout for another person to dance with, the ladies might skim over you without reading what your T-shirt says.

We’ve come to find instead that the foolproof way to asking a lady to dance comes with a help of a little body language. By simply extending your hand at the beginning of a song, and smiling genuinely you would have a partner to dance with. So guys it’s not really all about the words!

For the fidgety fiends:

So you don’t mind asking a lady to dance. At least in theory, but the minute you’re there in front of her, your palms start getting sweaty and your eye starts twitching and you’re spouting a SULA (sweaty upper lip syndrome).

Gentlemen, we know it’s nerve wracking going up to a complete stranger to ask them for a dance, but really we don’t bite. It’s about taking a deep breath, composing yourself and simply saying, “would you like to dance?”  We’d be absolute idiots to say no.

My Shy Guy:

It’s a good thing that the music is so loud that you’re not expected to keep up a stream of conversation anyways, and therefore you don’t really need to worry too much about what you’re going to say and how long you’re going to stand there. It’s a simple matter of asking the girl to dance and once that’s done the biggest hurdle is crossed. It’s now up to you to put all the moves you’ve learnt in class to use and impress her by your lead.

So the next time you’re about to ask a lady to dance just keep in mind that she’s probably waiting for someone to ask her to dance anyways. It’ll calm your nerves and soon enough you’ll realize there was nothing to be worried about in the first place.

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